20 Useful Tips For Dating An Older Man
Dating an older man is really not that big a deal anymore. I mean, come on, Hugh Hefner is 88 years old and he had 3 permanent girlfriends all in their 20’s for several years. Plus his current wife is actually 27 years old – yes a 27 year old woman married an 88 year old man – it happens! Since we’re living in a more accepting world, we’ve actually come to realize that in many cases age is really just a number; so if you are or plan to date someone older than, you here are 20 useful tips to consider.
There is a reason this man was attracted to you, so don’t try to be someone you’re not – he wants you. Oftentimes in ‘younger women-older men relationships’ the women think that they need to act more mature and they try to take on a different persona… don’t!
Take Things Slow
Just because your not dating a younger guy doesn’t mean the relationship has to move warp speed. Take your time and get to know the person before you rush into things such as moving in together, marriage or even kids.
Accept His Baggage
Most older men have baggage and you can either learn to work around it, or let in hinder your relationship. Whether it’s an ex-wife or a few kids, in order to sustain peace and harmony you must learn to accept these things. And the same goes for him.
Don’t Be Childish
Yes you’re younger than he is and you may not be as mature as your other half, but remember you’re in a mature relationship now so always keep that in mind. Just don’t be childish.
Don’t Be Intimidated
Chances are, he might be a bit more knowledgeable and a lot more experienced in certain things. Your best bet is to not become intimidated by it all, just relax.
Discuss The Future
Listen! you need to know exactly where the relationship is going, so don’t be afraid to discuss these things. This is extremely important and can be the downfall for many relationships when couples realize that they actually want different things.
Every now and then try to do something out-of-the-norm; men love spontaneity. It doesn’t have to be as drastic as skydiving (unless of course you’re into that sort of thing) but something small such as trying a unique restaurant or wearing a sexy new outfit might just do the trick!
Enjoy Your Conversations
Research shows that one of the things younger women appreciate in older men is the conversations – so enjoy it. You may learn a thing or two whether its about business, relationships, or just life in general.
Don’t Constantly Point Out The Age Difference
The fact that you’re dating means that the age gap is not a big deal, so there’s no need to bring it up during every conversation or every argument. Not that it can never be mentioned, but you don’t want to make your man feel old, so keep the age talk to a minimum.
Show Him New Things
There may be many new and interesting things your man doesn’t know about, so now is your chance to teach him a thing or two. Maybe it’s music, your favorite reality show or a new trending topic on social media.
Your man might be in a different place in his life than you are; and you may not quite understand what he is going through, but despite that just try to be supportive and you will both get through it!
Let Him Work
Your man might be in ‘the zone’ when he’s working and that’s perfectly okay; let him work. Find something to occupy your time until he’s done, there’s no need to whine or complain.
Not everyone will be accepting of your relationship, don’t panic and don’t blow up on them. Just be calm and allow your family and friends to get to know him a little better, once they see his true intentions, the age difference won’t be that big a deal to them.
In the meantime, don’t stress yourself out worrying about something that you can’t change. Find ways to take your mind of the negatives.
Don’t Give Away Your Power
Yes, he may be older and wiser (to some degree at least) but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a voice. Do not give him all the power — relationships should be 50/50, being older doesn’t mean he always has the upper hand.
Not just with yourself but also with your relationship. Despite what others say (and they will have a lot to say) be confident in the fact that you know this is the right person for you. Never let the opinions of others cause you lose confidence in your relationship.
Show Off Your Domestic Skills
You don’t have to get all Martha Stewart on him, but show your man that you know how to take care of the household. Cook him a fancy meal so that he knows you have skills in the kitchen. He will definitely appreciate that!
Laugh At Mistakes
Life is too short to take everything so serious. You and your man might get mistaken for a father-daughter duo, just correct the person and move right along. When you get home later you should laugh about it — after all you are both secure in your relationship so nothing else matters.
Listen To Him
He’s older than you are which means more life experience, so, if he gives his opinion on something you should listen. This doesn’t mean that he’s always right or that you have to do what he says, but with age comes knowledge so it surely won’t hurt to listen to your man.
Be Involved In His Life
Don’t try to isolate yourself from his friends just because they are all older than you – or you think they might judge you. His friends only want what’s best for him, so if you make him happy then they’ll eventually let you into the circle. Don’t shy away, just relax and have some fun!
Do It For The Right Reasons
Some women like the fact that older men have acquired more wealth than the men in their age group and this becomes the main motivator. These relationships never work out so make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Relationships are sacred; never forget that!