20 Ways To Forget Your Ex And Enjoy A Relationship Gap Year
Some Tips If You Work With Your Ex
Well, this is awkward, but sometimes office romance happens, and sometimes it falls in a heap! Gently explain to your supervisor what the situation is, and see if someone else in your team can liaise directly with your ex, at least for a few months until you can get used to the idea of it, and ease yourself back in. If this isn’t an option, remain professional at all times: call each other by full first names (not shortened casual names), spend as little time with them as possible, and try to do most of your work via email. Don’t punish yourself by seeking out reasons to see them, or sit next to or across from them in a meeting – you’re not doing yourself any favors. Pretend that your ex is that fellow worker who you’ve never really liked, and try to avoid at all costs!
Speaking Of Work
Now is the time to throw yourself into it! Not only will it be a welcome distraction from your broken heart, it’s also part of spending this time to improve yourself, your surroundings and your future. Look for training opportunities to up-skill, ask for special projects, or just spend some time improving your workflows and getting all those little jobs done that you haven’t gotten around to yet. Don’t bite off more than you can chew though – putting a bit more effort into work and improving your career doesn’t mean 14 hour days or changing jobs. It just means channeling the energy you would normally put into grieving for your ex into something for yourself, and setting yourself up for a better future.
Count The Days
Grab an old school hard copy calendar, and count the days you’ve made it as a single person. It’s like counting down to Christmas, but in reverse. And don’t think of it in a negative way – think of it as time passing and, as they say, “time heals all wounds”. While you’ll have bad days and good days, every day is a win because you’re living your life how you want to, learning to love yourself, and improving your future. As an added bonus, treat yourself when you hit a milestone like 100 days – there’s something to look forward to!
Compromise? No thanks!
You know those inane conversations that couples have like “What do you want for dinner?”, “I don’t know, what you do want?”, “I’m happy with whatever you feel like” … guess what? You get to have a break! If there’s ever a time to do what you want, when you want, it’s now. Want toast for dinner? HAVE TOAST FOR DINNER! With butter! And strawberries! This year is about you, what you like, and what you want to do. Within reason, of course, you still have to go to work and bathe.